Sakshi Pasricha is a life coach and behavioral skills trainer. She completed her bachelor’s from the University of Delhi and moved to Dubai post her master’s, wherein she worked with three organizations, all leaders in their respective fields. Throughout her career in Dubai, she worked in the field of learning & development; from coordinating learning events, working with celebrity speakers, designing, delivering, evaluating learning interventions, leading the department, to coaching individuals and leaders. One of her go-to mantras is: if you keep on doing what you have been doing, you will keep on getting what you have been getting. To get different results, you have to try different tools & techniques.
In a world where mental input is paramount to get any job done, how does one prevent burnout? Is it unfortunate to be sensitive, yet highly ambitious?
Being a master practitioner, I am sensitive to the words we use because once you start to put a label on yourself, you think and feel accordingly. Coming to burn out, when you go through a moment where you are physically, mentally, and emotionally exhausted, that’s when burn out happens. You don’t immediately reach the stage of burn out. However, having awareness can take you a long way. You can get that awareness by meditation, journaling, therapy, etc. If burnout is the hundredth step, awareness if the first. It helps you gauge where you stand on the scale and then go towards working on undoing the uneasiness within you. For example, the awareness that everyone in a corporate job is under pressure will help you cope better.
I think the whole idea of emotional intelligence comes into play when we talk about someone in a corporate job, who has a sensitive nature. Firstly, accepting that not everyone will agree with you every time, and that is ok, will allow you to keep your emotions in check, and urge you to take frequent breaks to reflect. The understanding that everyone in a corporate job is trying to protect themselves, their self-esteem, confidence, and ambition would allow you to put things in perspective. I have experienced the corporate culture first hand, and I can say that with the right outlook, you tend to build up resilience.
What are a few tips or tricks that work whenever addressing an audience?
When speaking to an audience, no matter whichever background they belong to, being authentic always works like a charm. Then comes uniqueness, followed by knowledge of the topic you’re speaking on. By clubbing all these together, the message comes out with a lot more conviction. Storytelling is another technique that helps engage with the audience.
How does an entrepreneur deal with despair and guilt when a venture driven by her/his vision fails?
A perspective change is needed. As an entrepreneur, you need to have a lot of compassion for yourself, apart from a vision and resources. If things are not going as you planned, that is ok. You must acknowledge and accept that you are doing whatever you can with your current resources, skillset, and thought. If you are working with like-minded people, they will understand the situation and help you make the correct decisions, because, in a company working towards a goal collectively, the accountability falls on everyone. You have to know that you can ask for help, express your apprehensions, and you don’t have to be strong all the time. Building a culture where teammates are expected to pitch in, keep a solution-oriented mindset, and have a clear channel of communication with the team as a whole, wherein they understand the pressures you are under as the person steering the ship, is also crucial.
Is it a good practice to be friends with your employees or people whom you are supervising?
Friendship is a very organic process; nobody plans that they are going to be friends with their colleagues. I have seen people who are strictly professional at work, more balanced people, and then people who are buddy-buddy. When you are too friendly with your team, it tends to affect their performance. If you are not able to deliver as a leader, there is no excuse for it. As long as everyone understands that the primary objective of the association is to help realize the company’s goals, and they do not lose sight of the purpose, friendship at work can be a great thing.
How does one escape the vicious cycle of overthinking?
The simple answer to a not-so-simple question would be awareness. One must be aware of what they are overthinking. Once that is established, you see if there’s anything you can do about it, any small step that can make you feel better. For example, you can take a walk to break the cycle of overthinking. Once you obtain that momentum where you’re working towards resolving your problem, your focus shifts from overthinking, and the tendency fades away. You must always divide your predicaments into what you can and can’t control. If there’s something that you can’t control, acceptance is the way.
People nowadays have become comparative, instead of competitive. Such a mindset makes them do things just for the sake of it, and not because of interest or passion. How does one let go of this pressure to succeed?
The answer would again be awareness; to continuously question yourself that what is the reason behind pursuing something. Whatever a person is doing, has to first and foremost resonate with their values and their goals. All new projects that you are thinking of taking up should get a vibe check. Even when you are taking up a micro project, you must see if it fits in your bigger plan.
These checkpoints help you avoid unnecessary things and save you a world of regret later on. Without awareness, you are nothing but a headless chicken. Nowadays, social media is another platform where people pick up random things just by seeing others gain popularity over those. Before doing so, you must ask yourself if it’s worth the investment, and if not, let it go.